It is the possibility of humiliation that can come with being close to another and then rejected and abandoned. I believe it is the most potent pain. Therefore it has the greatest potential for beauty.
What is the rule?
Go towards the fear.
Here is a 20 ft painting that I created in 2005 while attending an artists residency at the Vermont Studio Center for a month
In this painting I was exploring the pain that happens through separation. Today I am separating the painting into four panels. I will paint over-- add to, adjust three of them. I am a human being and I love the possibility of making it better. Icarus is my best friend.
Seth Godin writes about the importance of risk taking and art making in his book, The Icarus Deception.